“I’m nervous, anxious, it’s hard to breathe this is usually when I grab food, or distract myself and push it away but it never completely goes away, this feeling always keeps me from taking different actions and why I keep doing the same thing and feel stuck, and bad for the past 52 years”.
I just got off the phone with Mary who let me know why she wants to work with me but she’s scared to commit to my program even though everything inside her wants it.
“I’ve read at least 50 books that are half read, but I just can’t figure it out, so I stop and move on, but the feeling that I’m not doing it is always there in the background, making me feel bad about myself. But I’m “so there” for my friends, and family, but when it comes to me it’s like I don’t really matter, and I’m really hard on myself, I see all the flaws, not something I’d do to my friends, but they’re not me!”
“I’ve this creative side I don’t really make time for, and I keep putting all my energy into my work and feel exhausted and when I think about my house it just feels overwhelming there’s so much to do, that I don’t even know where to start, so I don’t.”
Any of it sound familiar?
Work, kids, friends, husband, get your full attention, but when it comes to you?
Sorry, I’m out of energy, maybe tomorrow?
But tomorrow doesn’t come, and you wonder why you’re so tired, and why you don’t feel well and why you get sick or maybe worse get some big illness?
Moving towards what you want is scary, you know what is, (feeling stuck), it feels comfortable like a tight shoe, uncomfortably familiar, and when there’s more space it can feel scary and that something’s wrong. Growth can be the the place you start to reach back for what you know and when sabotage sets in.
Crazy right, as much as you want to change, you don’t? Because staying stuck is so comfortable (not really). It takes courage to change, and it takes a willingness to be uncomfortable, and magically soon it too will get comfortable, to experience something new you have to step outside your comfort zone.
The caterpillar had to risk letting go of it’s cocoon to become a butterfly and so do you!
I remember when I let go of a full time job and decided to start my business, I’d no guaranteed income, I’d no experience being self employed, supporting myself, I’d no tangible way of knowing it’d work, I just knew, it was what I wanted.
Was it easy, no!
Did I want to quit, yes!
Did I, no!
But it didn’t make it easier. I cried a lot and felt the fear often but the risk of staying where I was, was so much greater than going for what I wanted. And I didn’t do it alone, I had a lot of support.
When you’ve know yourself one way it takes someone with you reminding you of your decision, when as Goethe said,
“Until one is committed, there is hesitancy, the chance to draw back, always ineffectiveness. Concerning all acts of initiative and creation, there is one elementary truth the ignorance of which kills countless ideas and splendid plans: that the moment one definitely commits oneself, then providence moves too.
All sorts of things occur to help one that would never otherwise have occurred. A whole stream of events issues from the decision, raising in one’s favour all manner of unforeseen incidents, meetings and material assistance which no man could have dreamed would have come his way.
Whatever you can do or dream you can, begin it. Boldness has genius, power and magic in it. Begin it now.”
― Johann Wolfgang von Goethe
indecision will bring you back.
- What do you need to let go of to be where you want?
- Who do you need to have with you, to help you move away from what’s comfortable and step into the unknown?
- Are you willing to do it?
I’d love to hear!
With love to you, may you trust in your big desires and risk getting support to get there. If I can be of service, reach me here.