Never Enough Time?
Is everyday an endless list of things to do, which never get done? Do you rush from thing to thing barely present when you get to the one, and then off to the next and not present there either? Do you feel frustrated and secretly sad this seems like a vicious cycle you can’t seem to get a hold of?
Get it. I know that feeling of constant busyness and then never feeling like you’re doing enough. And I know it’s not the road to your happy life.
It’s the road to feeling not good enough, ineffective at what you’re doing and inadequate at what you’re not.
Which also can lead to a constant feelings of: overwhelm, anxiety, weight gain, insomnia, depression, migraines…
I also know it doesn’t have to be this way.
So let’s do some exploring together. What’re your top three life values/priorities?
And now list what’re the top three things that get most of your time?
If there’s a discrepancy, you’ll notice your unhappiness and discontentedness.
Secondly, was one of the three things you value the most, YOU?
(I do a similar more extensive exercise with clients and what most notice; they’re not on that list).
So what about you? Are you one of your top three values?
Because if you’re constantly giving your time away, and doing “what others expect” and the only time for you is picking up a Starbucks or occasionally binge watching Netflix, you won’t be on your road to happy, loving your life.
Instead, it’ll keep you in the loop of “there’s never enough time, and definitely not enough “me time” with your only pleasure, fleeting and more like a way to escape.
Doing what’s expected, saying yes when inside you feel no, believing you don’t have a choice, leads to: feeling trapped and attached to the long list and secretly feeling resentful because you’re not making anyone happy, and most importantly you!
Recently I offered a 5 day challenge, and a number of times I heard, “I don’t have time to do it.”
Even thought they were unhappy and wanted to change. Why does it have to be all or nothing? Either it’s hours of time and go away on a long vacation or do nothing? It doesn’t have to be!
The other night a client said ” I feel like I’m disappearing” and this’s what happens when you say yes and mean no, and give, give, give to others.
You decide, what small step would begin to feel good. How you’ll know, because inside you feel a true YES!
I believe: life changes with small incremental changes practiced over time and that leads to a lifetime of change. You deserve to be happy, you deserve to take time for you. Deserve to give up the guilt (another topic). Because happiness is the truth of who you are.